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Off to dinner the night before I was the keynote speaker at a regional conference, I wanted something good, but casual; calming but moderately swift. So, my husband and I selected an interesting looking place within walking distant of our hotel.
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When we didn't order the white wine pairing he suggested, but a favorite red instead, he was visibly annoyed. When I passed on his favorite entree, he acted as if I offended him. And when my husband chose a dessert different from the one he recommended,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], his cold-shoulder rebuff was memorable.
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But people who are winning at working shift perspectives. They don't take it personally when you don't select their idea, use their computer short-cuts, or follow their approaches. They realize it's often simply personal and individual preferences. What works for you reflects your style, needs, wants, and desired results. Theirs does too.
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The bigger understanding needed in the workplace is this: it's not about you. If that waiter had perceived dinner as about us, the guest, he wouldn't have taken our choices personally. If his service had been personal (i.e. about us) our decisions would never have been taken personally (i.e. about him).
He's not alone. Too many of us take work situations personally. We believe we aren't being heard when our boss doesn't implement our suggestions; we think our co-workers are ignoring us when they don't follow our recommended approaches; or we perceive our staff as stubborn when they want to do a project their way.