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087613431 · Wysłany: Pon 10:17, 28 Mar 2011 Temat postu: Divorce Advice_3213

They haven't only forgotten that they were swept away by romance but they have also missed out on the fact that the reality of the rift caused by Divorce is quite irreparable. Some smarter couples go through Legal Separation first or even try to mend the damage by spending time out from work and arrange a couple's getaway or family retreat. These couples have gone through the D to the E of D.I.V.O.R.C.E.
D - DON'T RUSH IT. Again acting on an impulse is often a reckless decision, unless it is a matter of life-and-death. In the case of Divorce, however, as everything is set out and decided upon, signed, sealed and delivered; it settles down to permanence. Give each other some time for introspection if there could be other options to go around the problem, don't let anger and frustration get the best of you.
I - INVEST IN TIME AND LEGAL KNOWLEDGE. Much as you don't want it, you'll be smacked in the face with paperwork, record books and legalese. Either one of you wouldn't want to go out there unprepared. Once your name is called and it's your time in the stand,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], what with pressure and strain building up, you could lose it and maybe lose the case with it. If you're planning to win you might want to learn a few tips and tricks, to at least save you from the humiliation, especially if you're the defendant.
V- VALUE THE PROPERTIES AFFECTED. More often than not, there is one aspect left unconsidered. The children. For couples without child, sometimes it is a pet dog, bird, or cat. It may sound hilarious but just as children are involved, these priceless assets,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], whether they like it or not, whether they have choice or none,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], they will be crushed in the middle of the battle. It is rare that they would survive through the process without psychological injury. Yes, pets could be stressed out, too. Studies claim that while we are unaware of our pets' emotional and intellectual capacities,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], they are much cognizant of our feelings.
O - ORGANIZE THE DIVORCE PROCEDURE. When everywhere you look seems to be a dead-end, file the case. Get a good lawyer. While you're at it, get a lawyer that can win you the case. More importantly, hire a lawyer that believes in you and what you can do for the case.
R - REVIEW FINANCIAL ASPECTS. Be realistic. Can you afford it? How much are you willing to give up? Then look into bank statements,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], joint accounts,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], debts, bills and everything else that deals with money. Then consider the marital assets which may have to be divided.
E - EVALUATE THE DEMANDS OF YOUR PARTNER AGAINST YOUR NEEDS. Be realistic. Again. Your wife or husband is asking more than you could afford for yourself, will you merely give in because you feel trapped? Another way of seeing it is by placing yourself in your former-partner-to-be's shoes. Will he or she give as much if the tables were turned? Open that idea up to the other party and come up with a settlement that will favor everyone.
It's easier to talk about it than to do it but when you've been through it, divorced or reconciled, you could at least say you tried. When it's all said and done, at the end of the day, you'll look back and call it a life-changing experience.