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Wysłany: Czw 11:30, 24 Mar 2011 Temat postu: Cheap Max 2011 Are You Relationship Ready |
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There are four primary areas that you should explore in order to assess
your present state of readiness.
If your answers tell you that you have difficulty accepting and liking
yourself, or if others frequently respond negatively to you in your
interactions with them, then this is an area you should begin work on.
Self-love is at the foundation of all healthy relationships.
and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right?
Therefore, it is ve
Therefore, it's important to know that you have dealt adequately with
any significant hurt or loss and have learned from any dysfunctional
dynamics you may have contributed to.
So, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving
well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married
or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene
An example of such issues can include, but not be limited to;
emotional, physical or sexual abuse in childhood, parents' divorce, loss
of a parent or other loved one,Nike Shox TL, or a past abusive or dysfunctional love
relationship.
Can you state your most deeply held values?
Do you know what you can't live with or without in a relationship?
Do you have a good grasp of your life goals?
Do you know your own strengths and weaknesses?
If you do not possess adequate self knowledge and a positive sense of self;
an intimate relationship will be difficult or impossible to sustain.
For instance, do you know yourself well enough to answer the following?
4. Do you know what you want from a relationship?
Not necessarily.
How do you know if you are ready? What are the characteristics you need
to have or acquire in order to be ready for true love?
Now,Cheap Max 2011, do a quick assessment of your self-esteem.
Too often we "choose" someone using an unconscious level of thought
as our primary input. It is there that we hold our deepest unmet needs,Shox NZ,
fears and desires. Unfortunately, there is often a chasm between our
conscious and unconscious selves that keeps this information
"hidden" from our rational and thinking side.
You should mentally review these and honestly look at how well you
have already addressed and resolved them.
So what is relationship readiness anyway? Exactly what it says. You are
adequately capable of handling the commitment and challenges that a
healthy, intimate relationship requires.
If you find yourself slipping into unhealthy patterns in your thoughts or
Behaviors as they relate to others; stop, identify, and then deal with
that leftover issue.
If you believe that there are things you have not yet adequately dealt with, you
need to go to work on these. If you are unsure, then they bear closer
examination. Consider utilizing resources such as therapy or joining a
support group.
3. Are your past relationships really in the past?
1. Take an inventory of past traumas and related major issues.
2. How's your self-awareness and self-esteem?
How do you see yourself?
How do others see you?
Remember you present different selves:
at work
with family
with friends
in gatherings with acquaintances
If we don't get adequate closure on painful experiences/issues from
past relationships, we are at risk of bringing them into present and
future relationships in order to relive and resolve them.
As you work through each, ask yourself, "Is this impacting me negatively
in my present life." Also explore with yourself the possibility that the
issue could become problematic once you have entered into an intimate
relationship.
We enter into relationships for many different reasons and with many
different expectations. Knowing what yours are will help you to
determine if this is the right relationship for you.
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