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To die or not to die. I will not die like you. I will not surrender to that which feels unnatural.
There is no grave to visit, no body that rests in peace, for you symbolically died. Your God took the place of our natural bond. Your newfound religion precluded you from truly knowing your daughter, and because I would not adopt your faith, shunning seemed your only viable, “loving” option. And so you did, shun me, for the next 25 years. No calls, no letters,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], no love.
But there was only piercing silence on the other end.
As a teen, I longed to share with you my hopes and dreams for the future, but I could not. As a young adult, I wanted to call you countless times to say: “Hey,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], mom, I’m picking out my wedding dress on Saturday. Can you go with me?” “What’s that recipe for the delectable apple pie you used to make?” “I’m going into labor now. Better get here fast!”
There are days when I wake and hear the birds singing a nd it takes me back to our farmhouse in rural Pennsylvania where lush green vegetation enveloped the hillsides and morning mist danced upon my cheek. I recall the sun shining through the window, reflecting off our kitchen’s bright yellow walls. Yellow, your favorite color, medicated your ailing spirits, didn’t it? As your youngest, I intuitively sensed the loneliness and isolation you experienced as a stay-at-home mom. I too adopted your frustration and desire to become part of something bigger.
When I was just nine years old, my mother tragically left this world. Growing up without her was difficult, but those struggles barely register in the scheme of all we’ve lost. If I could give a voice to the hollow canyon of my incredulous memory, it would surely echo:
My head understands your religious mantra to become “no part of this world” and to “avoid association with nonbelievers.” I too marched the drill for years. However, no teenager should ever be forced to choose between family and freedom. Your heart once beat next to mine in utero, but now our hearts beat a generation removed.
My son has grown into a bright, mature teen now, full of wonder and compassion. As he waters the mums he gave me last Mother’s Day, I recall the fields of yellow dandelions dotting the open fields on our old homestead. In my childhood innocence, I tediously picked th e best ones, presenting them to you just to see your smile. Your love of horticulture and the gentle way you nurtured me during my early childhood lives on through your beautiful grandchild, my beloved.
“Mom, I’m sorry I referred to you as ‘mother’ for years after you left, for in my anger,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], despair and grief, “mom” seemed too endearing. I wondered, “How could you abandon me?” Only the wisdom that comes with age could provide the answer.
The same sun that shone into your kitchen thirty-five years ago peered through my kitchen window today, warmly penetrating my re d h air with microscopic precision. The reflection reminded me of the numerous times you dyed your hair to cover the emerging gray. Now, those gray hairs are becoming my own, and I face a similar dilemma, to dye or not to dye.
When I became a mother at twenty-eight, I hungered even more for your gentle touch and beautiful smile. So many nights I cradled my infant son and whispered, “I love you,” imagining how it might feel to hear you offer the same glorious gift to me, just one more time. Deprived of a female role model to offer much-needed advice, I immersed myself into becoming t he best mother I could for my young son. Still, there was a void. I knew you would not hear his first words, see his first steps or stroke his smooth skin as the two of you walked hand-in-hand. My heart, full of joy after creating a miraculous new life, also ached relentlessly. My precious future would never know my precious past.
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